by Keely Tanner
Is there a birthday, an anniversary or a meaningful day coming up between you and your significant other? Some of us look forward to these celebrations. But if the truth were made know, we would realize that there are many who dread them! Why? Perhaps because of expectations not realized? Too often time, creativity, or financial restraints make it difficult to meet the expectations of a loved one? These celebrations are not intended to make anyone’s life miserable. In fact there is more meaning behind the reason we have celebrations? They are ritualistic. And there is purpose in rituals.
What defines a ritual?
First, it needs to be repeated.
Second, it needs to be coordinated.
And finally it needs to be significant to both parties.
If you have an event or something that is reoccurring in your dating, marriage or family, this is a ritual. Rituals have meaning. Rituals have the power to bond couples and families emotionally. But the main thing to remember is that it needs to be meaningful to both parties, or there is little value to the effort.
If you are one of those people who just can’t seem to catch the vision of weekly, monthly and annual “ritualistic” celebrations, choose to make an attitude change. These rituals are important events that are supposed to happen in relationships. In the long run, these rituals will benefit you and your loved ones. Make the effort. Get your creative juices flowing…or do as I do, and get ideas from others who seem to thrive on such creativity. Surprisingly many of the most meaningful rituals just seem to evolve. For those that take more thought or research, it’s surprising how creativity doesn’t need a big price tag.