Parents strive to love their children and help them make decisions that will aid in them in becoming happy and healthy adults. Yet, today, the question looms, “What does that love look like?” Does it mean to condone, accept or even celebrate everything your child thinks or does? Or does love sometimes involve the more difficult process of compassionately and gently thinking through consequences of actions and behavior, together, and then providing counsel that may go against the loud voices of culture and society.
Stephen Covey taught, “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
Since “the rational part of a teen’s brain isn’t fully developed and won’t be until age 25 or so,” that love should require us as parents, and those that claim to care about children, to never lose sight of our obligation to provide measured, well-reasoned, where-will-this-lead advice and support.
As stated in today’s article, “vulnerable children need our care, compassion and our common sense.”
Faithfully for Family,
Wendy Wixom, President
United Families International
Gender Ideology and Your Child
October 20, 2020
Do we truly care about the health and the future of vulnerable children? This question came into stark relief last week during one of the U.S. Presidential Townhall discussions (Thursday, Oct. 15, 2020), where a presidential candidate, regarding young children, made this statement:
“The idea that an 8-year-old or a 10-year-old child decides, ‘You know, I decided I want to be transgender. That’s what I think I’d like to be. It would make my life a lot easier,’ there should be zero discrimination.”
There is no disagreement that a child who experiences bullying and harassment should be protected and this kind of behavior stopped, but what we also must address is the question: “How do we best protect and support vulnerable children?” – in this case, children who experience gender dysphoria. Is it wise for society, the medical community, and our laws to support and set up a young child, who according to a presidential candidate might be 8 or 10 years old, to make decisions that will so dramatically impact their life?
One mother’s story
My house was filled with boys – and boy toys. Yet one Christmas, my 4-year old sons, twins, requested Barbies and a baby doll. My husband was quick to point out: “That’s ok; I wanted to be like my mom, too, and requested an Easy Bake Oven for Christmas one year!” The twins got their dolls and displayed all the tenderness and nurturing one might expect from little girls. They played regularly with the dolls, for several years, before moving to other interests. My sons went on to become very masculine in their choices – avid hunters, highly-competitive athletes – men’s men.
I’ve often wondered what decisions I might have made, or would have been made for me, if my sons had come along a couple of decades later. Would the boys have been encouraged to consider transition to the other gender or be allowed to simply nurture their tender hearts and become the wonderful men and fathers they are today? Would a school teacher have noticed their tender, nurturing traits – and started planting the seeds of doubt as to their “gender identity?” Would the government have insisted that my young sons be allowed to “make their own decision” and would I have even been informed?
Good questions; not at all implausible in today’s cultural, social and political milieu. Does our caring for and love of our children include allowing them to make decisions that can have such dramatic and far-reaching consequences, especially when it’s pushed upon their innocent, still-developing and ever-changing minds?
Consider some evidence
As many as 98% gender confused boys, 88% gender confused girls who were distressed about their biological sex came to accept it by late adolescence after passing naturally through puberty. American Psychiatric Association: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Arlington, VA, American Psychiatric Association, 2013 (p.451-459).
For a list of all the studies related to numbers of young people who desist by the time they reach adulthood, go here:
Some claim that these studies are measuring Gender Non Conforming (GNC) and not children who experience true Gender Identity Disphoria (GID). For a rebuttal to this, go here:
In a study of social contagion and “rapid-onset gender dysphoria ” among teens and young adults, 87 percent of the young people studied became gender dysphoric after friends did, after increasing their time online, or both. None of the young people studied would have met the American Psychiatric Association’s criteria for diagnosing childhood gender dysphoria. But 62 percent had been diagnosed with a psychiatric disorder or neurodevelopmental disability before their gender dysphoria began. Where popularity status and activities were known, 60.7 percent of the young people experienced an increased popularity within their friend group when they announced a transgender-identification. Lisa Littman, “Rapid-onset gender dysphoria in adolescent and young adults: A study of parental reports,” PLOS, August 2018.
The Gender Identity Development Service in the United Kingdom alone has seen a 2000% increase in referrals since 2009. United Kingdom NHS Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) referrals figures for 2016/17 (p. 1-3).
The prevalence of gender dysphoria is 0.005-0.014% for adult born as males, whereas it is 0.002-0.003% for adult born as females. American Psychiatric Association: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Arlington, VA, American Psychiatric Association, 2013 (p.451-459).
Cross-sex hormones health risks include, but are not limited to, sterility, cardiac disease, high blood pressure, blood clots, strokes, diabetes, cancers, and brain abnormalities in the area of memory and executive functioning. Sex reassignment surgery increases risk for mortality, suicidal behavior and psychiatric morbidity. Moore, E., Wisniewski, & Dobs, A. “Endocrine treatment of transsexual people: A review of treatment regimens, outcomes, and adverse effects.” The Journal of Endocrinology & Metabolism, 2003; 88(9), pp. 3467-3473.
The rate of suicide attempts for postoperative transsexuals (compared to control group) was nearly five times more frequent, and the likelihood of death by suicide was nineteen times higher – even after adjustment for prior psychiatric illness. Cecilia Dhejne et al., “Long-term follow-up of transsexual persons undergoing sex reassignment surgery: cohort study in Sweden,” PLOS ONE 6, no. 2 (2011): e16885.
Individuals with transgender reassignment have a rate of suicide of 41%—22 times higher—than that of the overall US population. Studies show a majority of transgender patients suffer from other comorbid (co-existing) disorders (including dissociative disorders). Shira Maguen & Jillian C. Shipherd (2010) Suicide risk among transgender individuals, Psychology & Sexuality, 1:1, 34-43
Mayo Clinic systematically reviewed studies on the outcomes of hormonal therapies used in sex-reassignment procedures, finding there was “very low quality evidence” sex reassignment using hormonal interventions “likely improves gender dysphoria, psychological functioning and comorbidities, sexual function and overall quality of life.” Mohammad Hassan Murad et al., “Hormonal therapy and sex reassignment: a sys-tematic review and meta-analysis of quality of life and psychosocial outcomes,” Clinical Endocrinology 72 (2010): 214–231.
Care and compassion for children
Vulnerable children need our care, compassion and our common sense. With the dearth of long-term studies on the impact of social transition, puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones – not to mention the lack of efficacy of surgical gender transitioning and the permanent changes to a young person’s body – how can we as responsible adults, particularly parents, think we are helping children?
Peter Sprigg, Family Research Council, sums it up this way:
As a group of physicians warned in a letter to a medical journal in 2018, “There are no laboratory, imaging, or other objective tests to diagnose a ‘true transgender’ child.” In other words, “There is currently no way to predict who will desist and who will remain dysphoric.” Given the evidence that the majority of children with gender dysphoria do not identify as transgender adults if left to themselves, and the inability to know which will “persist” and which will “desist,” it is simply irresponsible for those trained to provide medical care to perform physical interventions, some effects of which are irreversible, that almost always put a child on a path toward a transgender identity.
Whatever one may think of allowing adults to “transition,” everyone should be able to agree adults should not interfere with the natural, healthy development of the bodies and minds of children. Children must be provided with the time and space to develop, naturally, into full-functioning adults.
Children who experience gender dysphoria, or desire to present as gender non-conforming, need to be protected from harassment, bullying, discrimination, and any form of mistreatment. Those who are struggling should be treated with compassion and provided assistance toward a goal of resolving issues to help young people feel comfortable with their bodies. But that assistance should not come in the form of something that puts them on a path to life-time dependence on controversial and potentially dangerous hormones, mutilation of their bodies, sterilization and years of regret.
It is not common sense, nor should it be considered care or compassion.
Definitions:
A sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity.
Sex:
Biological indication of male and female
Psychological and cultural characteristics associated with biological sex
A person’s internal sense of being male, female, or something else.
Referring to the broad spectrum of individuals who identify with a gender other than that associated with their birth sex
Steps of transitioning:
- Social transition –The process of the child presenting them self in the sex-stereotypical manner (appearance, behavior, pronouns, etc.) of their perceived gender identity.
- Puberty blockers – Drugs used to prevent children with gender dysphoria from going through puberty at a normal age – creating an abnormal condition in order to prevent normal development.
- Cross-sex hormones – a regimen of hormones administered for the purpose of chemically altering secondary sexual characteristics to match those of the opposite sex.
- Sex reassignment surgery – “sex change” – attempts to surgically transform the genitals of a person to that of the opposite sex.
Additional Reading:
Believing Children should “Transition” Genders is at odds with Science
Do Trans-Kids stay Trans – When they Grow Up?
Listening to a child doesn’t mean accepting the ‘trans’ narrative
Transing California Foster Children and Why Doctors Like Us Opposed It
Gender Dysphoria and Children: An Endocrinologist’s Evaluation of I am Jazz
The Alarming Findings of a New Study on Transgender Teens and Suicide