28 Jan Life Isn’t Fair
by Rebecca Mallory
All of us, at one time or another, are brought to our knees because of unexpected events. Trials and tribulation hit each of us whether we’re rich, poor, short or tall, young or old. We all have them. These moments often jolt us back to reality in reflection of what is truly important. I’ve had one of those weeks. Not from personal experience, but from the experience of others.
Would you look for the good?
Such was the case for some friends of ours. Mary, (not her real name) had been divorced for many years. She raised her sweet kids, got them through college, and did it alone. She recently met a great guy from Australia online, they dated and got married over Thanksgiving, 2015. They were so incredibly happy together, Mary seemed to glow. Last week, Robert (not his real name) was playing pickup basketball and literally collapsed with a massive cardiac arrest and died at 54 years old. Why? How is that fair to this darling girl?
A couple of days later, I heard of a young mom in the neighborhood who was taking her little four year old out for a walk in hopes that mom would soon go into labor and deliver their new baby sister. The little girl somehow let go of her mother’s hand, dashed into the street and was hit by a car and killed. Why? How is that fair to this grieving young family?
Life is anything but fair. So how do we deal with these tragedies of life? I had a sister who died of lung cancer three years ago. She never touched tobacco.
I know that each of you have these same stories or know of close friends who have. Here’s what I do know, however. We must all come to grips with what life may throw at us. We need to have a strong support system and core beliefs to guide us through those times. For many people that is their religion, a faithful friend, strong families, or belief in a higher power, etc. It is so important that we have access to something or someone bigger than us to support us through these times.
I reflected on the words spoken in the funeral of this newlywed. His two sons spoke and were obviously distraught. One son recounted how he always got on his dad’s case because he didn’t save money like the son wished he would. “But,” he answered, “I’m creating memories with my precious family.” This son was so grateful for that. Mary, his wife, bravely spoke also. She spoke of Robert’s goodness and positive attitude. She spoke of the seven glorious weeks they had together and how grateful she was for those precious memories. Certainly she could have sobbed and wailed about how unfair it was that he was taken at such a young age. From her core beliefs, however, Mary chose to look at the bright side of having had those wonderful weeks with a wonderful man. The difficulty will not stop for a long time of course. Loneliness will settle in and those pesky “why’s?” will creep into her thoughts as they do all of us when we face trials.
Look back at your life. What experiences brought you the most heartache and/or joy? I’ll bet it was those that were most difficult and brought you to your knees to search the depths of your soul for what is truly important. “Stuff” suddenly does not matter. Petty grievances are often forgiven, and hopefully, we learn life’s hard but valuable lessons that then prepare us for the next big challenge we will face. I remember feeling sorry for parents who had a wayward child, one who had a drug addiction, lost a job, or died at a young age. It wasn’t until my family faced similar trials that I truly understood the pain of those who went before us.
Like the rough stone that tumbles into a river and is constantly bombarded with debris, freezing cold water and other elements, it slowly becomes smooth as it yields to the river. On the other hand, think of those you know who choose to remain heartbroken and bitter because of refusing to yield to life’s curve balls. Often these people look much older than their age and are in poor health because the worry and stress that they allow, yes allow, to consume them will age or even kill them faster than most diseases.
Laura MErriott
Posted at 10:57h, 28 JanuaryYou are SO RIGHT, life is not fair, particularly for the innocent unborn babies whose life is ended in abortion-no chance for the first breath, to live a life which all of us consider so precious. I worked in a Pregnancy Center that does free ultrasounds for pregnant women, and the DIrector was so disheartened to hear the mom says she will go abort the child because she could not afford the child. I asked if the mom might change her mind if we offered her a sum of money, thus started our charity, Save Unborn Life, we have literally saved over 70 babies, and hope to save many more. We hope pro-life AMericans will join us at saveunbornlife.org and help us to convince abortion-minded women that we will help them if the choice is because of a lack on money. Remember, we applauded Oscar Shindler for saving over 1,100 Jewish lives by offering money to the Nazis!
We believe every life is PRICELESS, we hope you agree!
GOD BLESS US EVERYONE!
Mrs. Laura Merriott
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Laura Merriott
Posted at 11:06h, 28 JanuaryYou are SO RIGHT, life is not fair, particularly for innocent unborn babies whose lives are ended in abortion, not even a chance at life, which we believe is so precious!
I worked at a Pregnancy center in 2005 where women were offered free ultrasounds, and the Director was so disheartened when the mom said she will abort the baby because she could not afford it! I asked if the moms might change their mind if we offered a sum of money-$3000, thus started our pro-life charity, Save Unborn Life. We have saved over 70 unborn babies, and hope to save many more, we invite people to go to saveunbornlife.org and help us convince women to NOT KILL their unborn child. Remember, we applauded Oscar Schindler who saved over 1,100 Jews by offering money to the Nazis! We believe every life is PRICELESS, and hope to encourage pro-life citizens to join us!
GOD BLESS US EVERYONE!
MRs. Laura Merriott