Rachel Allison
Last Wednesday night my husband and I had the opportunity to attend the Presidential debate. What an exciting evening! And we had great seats….right behind CNN’s technical crew. We not only had a great view of the stage, but we could see a small television screen in front of the technicians that showed us what the folks at home were seeing. We were also able to see how this same crew reacted to some of the answers to John King’s questions.
The reaction was most evident when Mr. King asked about contraceptives. The crowd “booed,” but the candidates went on to spend precious time answering the question. At the point when one of the candidates suggested that “abstinence before marriage should be taught” the technicians exchanged looks and chuckled in derision.
That little exchange bothered me for all of five seconds, as I judged them (yes, I judged them) and labeled them “promiscuous” ….and then my attention refocused on what was happening in the debate.
Today I received an email that reminded me of that five second annoyance. The email had a link to a blog entitled “I’m Committed to Abstinence, Virgin is Not a Dirty Word.” The blogger’s name is Kristen Walker and she writes for LifeSightNews.com.
May I quote just part of her words?
“I personally believe that the best way for a child to come into the world is being born to two people who are married — that is, committed to one another in the eyes of God and man. Therefore, I decided, to paraphrase Mahatma Gandhi, that I was going to be the change I wished to see in the world. I was going to put my money where my mouth was and stop engaging in baby-making activities until I was in the situation I felt was best for baby-having activities…”
Then she wrote something that I wish ALL adults believed and taught to their children…
“Moral law is based on natural law. The reason God gave us all these pesky rules is because they’re good for us. When people follow the basic tenets of Judeo-Christian sexual morality, they lead better lives. They lead lives of loving responsibility in which they react to positive pregnancy tests with tears of joy, hugs, and excited phone calls, as opposed to panic-barfing and fear-sweat.”…
It was this next paragraph that made me hurt for the women who have bought into the sexual freedom movement.
…”I’ve lived the other life. I was never what you’d call promiscuous, but nor was I what you’d call sexually moral. Because of my willingness to give of myself completely to men who weren’t willing to give me the same, I lived a life of heartbreak and confusion. Finally, about four years ago, I noticed that every time I gave my heart away, I wasn’t getting it all back. Every go-round, there seemed to be less and less of my heart to give. I was becoming less open, more guarded, even bitter. I could feel a wall growing around my heart, and it was thick and it was high.”
“I knew that one day, God willing, I was going to have a husband. Did I want him to end up with the leftovers, the dregs? Did I want him to have to mount a high wall to get to my heart?”…
I strongly suggest you read her entire entry…and share it with those you love. Discussion on the topic needs to be open and honest. There is a little book entitled “Unprotected” by Dr. Miriam Grossman, that also needs to be in every home. It’s a quick read that explains what is happening in our “do what comes naturally” society. It made my heart break for the women who destroy their lives, all in the name of love.